This past week, the kids & I enjoyed watching 'Lucy Hires a Maid' in which Lucy employs the infamous, Mrs Porter. Ricky exhorts Lucy to "be firm" & "let her know who's boss" to which Lucy halfheartedly agrees. The trouble peaks when Lucy doesn't have the nerve to "fire her" after "being eaten out of house & home"!
I was ruminating over Lucy's lack of resolve to stand up for herself and did a mental status report for myself. Believe it or not (and I don't think 'Ricky' does!), I have previously struggled much in this area...not so much now though. I attribute this process of evolving to more life experience, getting married, becoming a mother and running on less sleep:)
For example, last month I purposed to swing by Baby Gap to check out any potential bargains (consistently find incredible deals here!) and after a few minutes, maneuvered to the register and asked the cashier to run some price checks (#1 rule to shop by: always price check!)...he happily obliged and as he read the prices to me I cast my vote.
When the cashier read the price to a 'final sale' item (linen shirt for Jonah that I really wanted), I looked at the item again, sighed and said, "Nah". The cashier calmly said, "What if I lower the price some more?" I was totally intrigued now & though I rarely sport a successful poker face, nonchalantly responded, "Like how much, cause I'm thinking I'm going to have to iron that so you'll have to make it worth my time". I was a bit stunned that I actually said that but felt really good because it was true!!! Now with endorphins pumping & my curiosity peaked, the cashier chuckled over my response (am I the only person that irons baby clothes? Surely not...) and quoted almost half of the 'final sale' price! Again, attempting to remain calm (while on the inside I was jumping up & down!!!), I scrunched up my pondering face, paused, sighed and said, "...ok":)
We bartered over another item, agreed on several others & I literally left Baby Gap that day grinning from ear to ear, having learned a valuable lesson: stick to your guns & try to deal with the manager on duty:) I really wanted the linen shirt for Jonah (which he wore for his birthday party!) but knew that the price was more than I could live with so I was willing to leave it behind. If the cashier had not bartered I would have survived but I learned that retail prices are not always what they appear:)
Be willing to ask the hard questions, like, "Is this the final price"? In my case I didn't need to ask Mrs Porter if "she's a good cook, if she has a catcher's mitt" etc... but since the above experience, I've found myself confidently asking for possible price changes and am amazed at how often I'm met with success (just think how many times I could've saved more during previous shopping ventures!).
The journey to standing up for ourselves is a long road for many of us and one that encompasses so much, such as hiring a maid & even shopping for kids clothes:) At times I remind myself to stand up straight, face your current challenge and stick to your guns aka "Is this the final price?"!
This week, instead if hatching a "plan to make Mrs Porter quit", expect the unexpected as you stick to your guns!
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